Help Me, Please! I Cannot Express Myself!

LifeStyleAugust 13, 2017

Many people are unable to express how they feel. I am one of them. What about you? To be honest with you, I am often scared and simply cannot find the words to express my inner struggles.

Did you know that keeping emotions to oneself can be health destructive? Many people, like myself, cannot find the right voice to express the tortuous inner turmoil. Still, keeping those feelings unexpressed is not a healthy habit since it may take a toll on the mind and body.

I will share with you all of my daily struggles coming from being unable to express myself.

Do you often feel the same as I do? Let’s check.

Tears all over the place

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It comes as a rule that most inexpressive people cry often. Their tears come in at the wrong time, and it is never a thing that comes in a normal way. This means that there are situations which do not normally require crying, i.e., other people don’t usually cry in certain situations, but the inexpressive people fail to hold back their tears in the same situations.

‘Normal people’ can be perfectly fine in settings in which the inexpressive people find it hard to push back their tears. Let’s explain this in the next paragraph.

I am fine

For most people who have difficulties in expressing themselves, the answer to ‘How are you?’ is always ‘I am fine.’ They say it without even thinking about the question. Simple ‘I am fine’ is their usual answer even if they are not feeling fine. Why is that so? Well, because the inexpressive people know that they are not able to show their real feelings, so they don’t even try to do that.

There were probably many times when they tried to express themselves but failed. As such, with time, they simply stopped trying. But this is wrong! The moment you stop trying to express your emotions and simply say ‘I am fine’, you are going into denial! This kind of denial leads you to those sudden bursts of tears since both your body and mind need some emotional relief. Think about this for a while.

In those situations, it doesn’t matter what the actual emotion in question was the outcome is the same – the river of tears!

Hiding within a comfort zone

Many inexpressive people often snap inside the comforts of their own home and enjoy the isolation from other people. They find it hard to bury and push the feelings to a corner at the drop of a hat when they are with other people. Therefore, they simply hide and express them in solitude. In fact, they often feel surrounded by an explosive rage when they are facing people with whom they cannot share their feelings and real thoughts. Then, it is better to shed that rage in solitude. Or not?

There are no romantic words

A lot of inexpressive people often find it hard to say ‘I love you’ even to the people they are closest to. So, we could say that they are also unable to respond to feelings of love and romance. In fact, they cannot even cry if they are not overwhelmed with rage. This is why they are considered as heartless individuals when in reality, are simply bad at expressing themselves!

Hiding (again) emotions with sarcasm

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For most inexpressive people, sarcasm is a self-defensive weapon. It often deflects attention from real issues and does not give any attention to the issues at hand. One should never mix up sarcasm with insensitivity since they are far from being identical.

Most inexpressive people find sarcasm handy while pointing out a flaw or a problem. You will definitely recognize an inexpressive person by his/her use of sarcasm. Did you watch House M.D series? The main character, Dr. Gregory House himself, is the most representative of the kind.

“I’ve found that when you want to know the truth about someone, that someone is probably the last person you should ask.’‘ – Dr. Gregory House

They don’t accept gifts

A lot of the inexpressive people find it hard to receive gifts, so they refuse them in the first place. Since they are not able to express emotions, they often fail to say ‘Thank you’, and ‘Please’. This is why they would do everything to avoid situations which require thankfulness and gratitude. It is easier that way, right?

The inexpensive people know that others cannot read their minds, so they don’t expect anything from other people other than to be left alone. Are you one of us?